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Friday, January 22, 2010

Seeking Applications: In Search of a Second Wife

Two episodes of Big Love and I'm convinced, I need a second wife - WE need a second wife. No, we're not religious or even marginally interested in the Mormon faith. We are however committed polyamorists and lately I've been feeling like something is missing. Yes, I know, polyamory is one thing and polygamy is another. Yet, I'm seriously starting to believe that a second wife would makes for a perfect equilbrium in our relationship. The type of girlfriend I am looking for, with the added bonus of being a friend/playmate/lover my partner. Unlike HBO's Barb, Nikki and Margene, I want both personal (me) time and shared time, with both the husband and the second wife.

The more I think about this to more dedicated I become to finding such a woman. But where would I look? Is there somewhere in particular I need to go to? Surely the swingers club is not the right location? Intelligent, open minded, sexually and emotionally evolved dark chocolate women interested in a multi-partner arrangement aren't easy to find. Are they?


Ronjazz said...

Swingers are one thing. Poly is another. Often they mix. I personally am on the cusp of a poly relationship with two women, and I am so excited about it.

Very little in my life is trivial. Even in enjoying other partners, I absolutely need to know some investment, some interest. Even if it's for the day. Know what I mean? Just make sure that the two of you TALK IT OUT. I found my girls blogging, to be frank. But if you Google 'polyamory', you might be surprised at what you find.

DeidraK said...

I haven't ever thought of getting into it but I can definitely see how you are being turned on by the idea. I love that show because it has normalized the lifestyle so much I guess.

I couldn't do it though without some super, duper deep discussions about every aspect of a possible relationship with my partner and the potential mate. I am talking every sordid detail you can possibly think of.

I definitely hope its works out and you find the perfect second wife. Updates on the process would also be nice too.

Pink Vixxxen said...

I know a squirting gimp you guys can keep locked up n the basement, lol! She's sure to be fun for both of you! lmao (*inside joke. readers, see: What the Fuckety Fuck post)

Inferno said...

I was once involved in a triad relationship for a very long time.
Good and bad I would say.
Being a male and having two females as partners really puts a damper on decision making. You always lose the vote.
If one woman gets grumpy.. they both usually do. Who is going to be the loser in that? The male.
Scary stuff. Lots of chick flicks, decor goes all girly over time.... yikes.

Comfort, companionship, warm winter nights, etc.. many good points too.

I now am in a non poly relationship (straight marriage) and we swing a bit.
It lacks the intamate nature of poly, but is so much more simple.
Great sex, great friends, not so much room for drama. If drama starts in swinging you can bail.

If drama starts in a long term poly relationship you have a hard to handle situation.

MzTrySexual said...

I'm inclined to agree! But I dunno that 'the Man' will be as willing! or my country folk for that matter , lol!

Choc'laDee said...

lol oh boy, I shall refrain from direct commentary!!! Go BIG LOVE!! Can't wait until you catch up!!!